What Language of Love do you Speak?
Hello love, are you finding yourself overwhelmed with things that need to get done before the Holidays really arrive? Are you wrapped up in your To Do list yet feel like you are forgetting something? Guess what, you probably are. You probably are forgetting the most important part and the Purpose of it all is sharing and expressing your Love.
What language of Love are you speaking when you are consumed with executing your plans? How are you showing love when you ignore what is right in front of you? Do you believe that you are expressing your love just by creating a beautiful space for everyone to enjoy? You are not completely out of touch just yet but you may want to become more clear in your actions. Express to those you love exactly the place from which you are coming from.
There are Five Love Languages:
- gift giving
- quality time
- words of affirmation
- acts of service
- physical touch
Some of us speak more than one and others barely one. Some of us require a specific language and others are not yet clear on what language they require because they are not yet clear on themselves. They have not invested the time getting to know their full selves and what they need in order to feel for-filled and happy.
Several years ago I began to look into my needs. What it was that I needed in order to feel connected to and with those around me. It was then that I ran into information about the Five languages and began to reach some clarity. I wrote about my take away especially when it came to my connection with my family which I will share a piece of again here:
...I took away that in my family there are all types of love but that no one expresses it as I do. That we may all care but lack of communication makes it impossible to show. That sometimes loving people means keeping a distance so that you may keep your sanity and peace. The language of love they speak is not nurturing. It does not come from a place of empowerment or comfort. It comes from a place of self-doubt and chaos. It comes at an arm's length.
I don't understand that love because the language of love spoken in my home and with the family I have built, it is seen, felt, and heard every day. There is no wondering, no doubt, and no feeling as if the rug will be pulled out from under you at any moment.
The language is clear and with purpose. To lift, to support, to comfort, to bring peace.
My daughter and I had an exchange recently that ties into the thoughts I've been having lately. It made me stop and think about how we have been talking. I commented we are two people and if the communication is poor it is up to us to stop, take a look at ourselves and see where it is coming from. I said things along the line of I've been your mother for almost 20 years and when the day comes our language is not on the same page then it's time to figure something else out.
Parenting, Motherhood, and Relationships are all about "the language". Connections are all about intent. What you put in you will get back. Be mindful of your expressions and be aware that "language" is not always just words. Some people are not great at verbal expressions but their physical actions speak volumes. Learn how to listen even with your eyes, sometimes.
If the actions are just as clear as words would be than learn to be open to that but if the words are lacking just as much as the actions then it is time to refocus and start a conversation.
What language are you speaking? Is it clear to those you love? Are you on the same page? Are you even speaking Love?...
I still agree with those words. You must be clear with your intentions. So as you continue to prepare for the Holidays pay attention to your Language. Focus on love, connection and building memories not the accumulation of things.
Again I ask...What Language of Love do you Speak?
Always stress-free xo,