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Five reasons you should reduce your Social Media Engagement

Five reasons you should reduce your Social Media Engagement

Hello doll, I'm writing to you all curled up in my sofa with a cup of green tea and a blanket. It is barely early September but in NYC it is lightly wet and brisk. Feels like an Autumn day. It is one of those days in which many of us stay indoors and what do we...scroll through Social Media.

I had a slow work day this past week and it started innocently enough with me posting my promo for my upcoming Photography Showcase when next thing I knew I had been on Instagram for over an hour and a half! When I realized the time I had wasted watching videos, celebrity pics and so forth I was pretty upset with myself but quickly realized it is part of the new makeup of our society. You can't go or look anywhere where you won't see most people looking down at their phones or into a computer screen.

Sometimes when my daughter has her friends over there are moments when I look over at them and I catch five people all looking down at their phones yet sitting together for dinner. I begin to laugh because I didn't grow up this way. I didn't have access to all sorts of information at a blink of an eye. I didn't know what my favorite musicians or television stars were doing every second of every day.

I don't want to say that Social Media is bad it isn't what is bad is how the people are using it on a daily basis.

Every "free" moment we have we are grabbing our phones or typing away on our laptops. We order dinner at a restaurant, the waiter/waitress walks away there we go towards our phones. We are sitting watching television if we get bored we let it play on and grab our phones. At an appointment phone, commuting that we are not the drivers' phone, taking our kids to the playground phone.

All the "rules" that my brands pretty much require, I can't seem to follow. As a Lifestyle and Parenting blogger, I'm supposed to be visible on several Social Media platforms numerous times a day, every day. I can barely get myself to pop up on one at least three times in one day. I just don't like it. I don't like having to "share" every little thing I do with my "followers" just so that they can "feel" I am engaging with them. I write about Creating Your Best Life, so how can I promote something that takes you away from that? How can I say "live in the moment" but then ask you to share a pic? I love my subscribers, I love my audience but I love even more that you don't show me all you do but instead are actually doing! 

I am going to give you Five reasons you should reduce your Social Media Engagement with a bit of my perspective and then I want us to chat about it later in the comments. Tell me what you think?

-Mental Health -there are studies that talk about the effects on our brain after constant negative news and information. I don't need a study to tell me how crappy I feel every time I watch the news or read a tweet about injustice, pain, murder, abuse, disparity. I don't need a study to tell me I am affecting the quality of my life by constantly emerging myself in these moments of emotional abuse.

-Family Time -building strong emotional connections require our presence. They require our full attention and time. It isn't enough to just be in a room when while you are there you aren't there. It isn't enough to show up but not engage. We as humans are slowly forgetting the importance of eye contact and acknowledgment. Emotions are becoming robotic, love needs contact. Touch, feel, taste, breathe, smile. 

-Self-Care -saying you are doing something for "self" as you scroll through Kim Kardashian's IG is not doing for self. Self-means YOU. Care of You, if what she is wearing or doing makes you feel less than or like you are missing out on something then you are not caring for self or Creating Your Best Life. You are watching her live her best life. Fix your nails, cut your hair, read the latest book from your favorite author, eat your favorite meal, take your favorite Zumba class for You.

-Finances -why finances you might ask? All social media does is display things in large amounts. The flamboyant lifestyles of the rich and famous or the extreme poverty in our backyards and other places we don't ever even think of. When you are constantly on your Social Media you tend to think you are lacking or not doing enough. You never feel satisfied that you are moving along at your pace or that you are accomplishing your goals at the right time. Social media shares encourage greed and jealousy by only "sharing" the extremes of one or the other.

-Creativity -the time you invest watching others create is the time you should be investing in yourself. Baking in your kitchen and selling those pastries your loved ones rave about. Using your amazing skills on the computer to teach someone else or contract your services, expanding your home decorating skills to bring beauty to someone else's home, using your skills as a mechanic on your car to bring extra income to you and your family. Creativity is in all of us, we just need to stop looking at what others are doing and start doing for ourselves.

Most of us already know these things, sometimes we need a reminder and or some encouragement. Five reasons you should reduce your Social Media Engagement is not a bashing as I said earlier it's not a bad thing it's just being used poorly. I encourage growth and learning, I support sharing to inspire, and I look for things to motivate but I never rely on outside forces to complete me or create my happiness.

Alright, now it is your turn to share. Let me know your thoughts. How do you use social media? Do you use it to expand and promote your brand or business? Do you use it to connect with loved ones? How does the time you invest in using social media make you feel? When you close that page what do you walk away with? Look forward to reading your comments!

Always stress-free xo,


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