Three reasons why I Didn't celebrate Cinco de Mayo
Hey love, so were you one of the many who celebrated yesterday being Cinco de Mayo with numerous drinks, Mexican food, Mexican clothing and lots of laughter? Did you begin last week with plans for your weekend get together with friends and family? Stocking your fridge with alcohol and ingredients to make your tacos? As you were doing this yourself or being witness to others engaging in the behavior did you ever stop and ask yourself...what is the REAL meaning of Cinco de Mayo?
If you know its history I am glad to have you in Mommywood's community if you don't I am also glad to have you here because today Mommywood is going to add something to your toolbox that will allow you perhaps to change your perspective on following to just follow what others do. That is not the way to Create your Best Life.
Three reasons why I Didn't celebrate Cinco de Mayo:
-Disrespect: My earliest recollection of Cinco de Mayo was working for Greenpoint Bank which became Northfork Bank and are now known as Capital One Bank. I recall all the non-people of color getting very excited to go out and drink after work and even walking around the office in Sombreros or colorful Mariachi style pieces over their suits or dresses as the end of their workday drew near. I remember watching the buffoonery unfold as they gathered at my supervisor's desk laughing all the way out towards Happy Hour. Even then at eighteen and nineteen years old I knew that it was wrong. I knew how they felt about Mexican people and their culture, I heard the comments and stereotypes, I witnessed first hand working in the Mortgage business the discrimination as any Spanish sounding name came across our desks. Yet here they were Celebrating. I knew then as I know now it's just another excuse, another reason to party, to get drunk and "let some steam out".
-I am not a fan of Cultural Appropriation: Ethnicity is not a costume you just put on and take off. To dislike a group of people for whatever reason perhaps mostly due to biases engrained from childhood built on lies, especially if you were born and raised in the USA but enjoy their music, style, countries, products, and so forth is hypocrisy. How can you like my women, love my food, enjoy my Island or land but hate me and not want me around? How can you profit off of my greatness or my contributions and still find me unworthy of being your Equal? These are the questions that we, people of color ask ourselves daily. These are questions I ask myself when I hear comments about my own Dominican people.
-Lack of Knowledge: so if you didn't know...Cinco de Mayo is NOT Mexican Independence Day. It is the commemoration of the day the MEXICAN ARMY defeated the FRENCH. In doing so at that time it benefited the AMERICANS in some way. I state this in a simplistic manner because I am not a Historian, nor a teacher, nor a politician. I am just someone who as a Spanish speaking minority has gotten tired of correcting again...non-people of color. I am also someone who questions everything and never follows blindly. Do your research! Do not follow blindly without knowing. Do not make assumptions, stop being a Clown.
If you want to drink and party it up do not use the history of another culture as your excuse. Do not profit from their suffering and struggles. Do not mock and mimic their plaits. Instead get to know them, respect them, embrace them and then celebrate THAT together. Ignorance is not funny. Ignorance is no longer accepted and Ignorance is no longer chuckled at or swept under the rug. Every time your clown tendencies show up You will be called OUT!
So there you have it, here's my perspective and my experiences. Would love to hear your take and hear your own journey please feel free to share.
Always stress-free xo,