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Eight types of dates, which one are you?

Eight types of dates, which one are you?

As the days get warmer and sunlight lasts longer we all look forward to investing more of our time outdoors. Warmer weather invites our shedding the heavy clothes and looking for ways to interact more with others.

Summertime is the perfect time for relationships, but what if you aren't in one? What if you are single? Seems that lately, I read more about divorces than connections. Today I want to chat about making connections. I read a few articles recently about the struggles of dating and I chose to share some new things I learned.

Aside from my conversations with my daughter, reading is the next best place for me to stay up to date. I commented to her the other night about not wanting to get emotionally attached to the latest person someone we know was dating. This was person number five in less than a year. My Lil Mama pointed out that dating is not what I grew up knowing it to be. That today we should embrace having many options and exploring all types of people so we can really know what we want in the end. And I totally agree until an old school thought creeps up and I have to check myself before I begin to label people and put them in a box.

Being single in my forties I should know better than to restrict myself and close off options that may come my way. So with that reminder, I went online and read up on dating trends and found this... Eight types of dates, which one are you?

What I found brought both laughter and information and I would love for you to share with me in the comment section your experiences. Which one are you, which one you have been or which one have you experienced?

  • Benching- going out with someone, keeping lines of communication open but not really committing to another date so soon because you are keeping an eye out for someone else you feel more connected to and want to see how things play out. You bench (keep them on the sidelines) just in case.
  • Lay-By/Breadcrumbing- you go out with someone a few times then stop communicating start dating someone else then reconnect back with the first person. You're not sure where your feelings are but you again want to keep your options open so you keep dropping "breadcrumbs" to keep all parties involved around.
  • Catch and Release- going out with someone in which everything is going well and suddenly they pull away. Possible fear of committing and believes something is too good to be true.
  • Slow Fade- you're going out with someone and things are going great, once you voice your thoughts and moving to the next step like meeting friends, family, etc...this person begins to pull away and becomes less and less available. Not able to instead have a conversation and voice concerns.
  • Zombie-ing- similar to Slow fade, when you go out once and never go out again till some time has passed and you reach out thinking it is cool to reconnect again because there never was an "official" breakup so there should be no hard feelings.
  • Drafting- the mode you're in when you begin to narrow your prospects down as the colder weather approaches. You begin to look for that potential "cuffing" season potential.
  • Draking- always dating, even several people at once but never satisfied and always sharing your experiences in hopes of finding a sympathetic ear.
  • Throwback- strictly old school, no gadgets or apps just embracing face to face exchanges and conversations. 

Aren't some of those categories funny as heck? I've definitely partaken in Benching but I am totally Throwback all the way. Don't forget to share your experiences with me love to chat.

Always stress-free xo,

Mari

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