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Appropriate Clothing? What does that really mean?

In light of all this Miley Cyrus news and the outrage about her outfits her good ole Hannah Montana days being gone, the questions about what is happening to her and so forth I began to think about What is Appropriate clothing? Is she just as I have commented before only doing what all young women do and exploring her sexuality, coming into her own or is it truly a problem? Do age and appropriate clothing go hand and hand? What exactly is appropriate clothing and who deems it so?

Let’s explore this some more. Are there clear distinctions between playing dress up and down the line wanting to wear certain items outside of the home?
I find that this is a slippery slope especially in the female gender. Moms buy the makeup kit for the three or four year old then have an issue when that same child is eight or ten years old and wants to go to school in full blown clown gear.
Or when they allow them to wear the heels at four to match their Snow white costume but have a huge fight at the mall because in eighth grade she wants to wear heels to her dance.

Is it Sexy for a twelve year old to wear a belly showing top? And what is sexy exactly?
Do we wait till our children mimic a celebrity or do begin to instill certain expectations from when they are young? Are we being clear on what is dress up and what is real?

In my home there was no makeup allowed until my daughter was in 7th grade and that was perhaps some eyeliner. No nails painted till 6th grade and only light colors. No hair dying, coloring, chemical anything. Any makeup was for Halloween costumes only. Clothing and makeup ADD to your natural beauty they DON’T make you beautiful. This is what I taught my daughter, shared with my daughter and it worked wonderfully. She never rebelled or went behind my back and wore makeup or an outfit that was not suitable for her age or occasion. Communication is key and we had and have tons of it.

These are in the grand scheme of life, actually small matters but matters that we as parents should be conscious of none the less and set the best standards possible from home and not by what society says or your child’s friends do.
Small things matter.

Start a conversation, what do you think about the label Appropriate clothing?

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