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Why are you Crying?

Busy day, long hours just picked you up from the sitters. Settling us in and about to start to make dinner. You are crying. Why? Your clean, diapers changed, I gave you loads of hugs and kisses. You don’t look hurt so I know in general everything is fine.

I read you a story, we hugged and kissed, I turned on your nightlight we said goodnight and I tucked you in. Ten minutes later you start to cry. Why?

I’m in the living room reading a book and you’re in your room where I left you ten minutes ago playing with your toys. Out of nowhere you come running to me in tears, Why?

These are some of those parent moments we don’t have the answers. What we do to handle this situation can bring us peace of mind or hours of torment.  Do we rush to solve the problem or do we allow things to play themselves out?

I see time and time again in the grocery store, at the doctor’s office, in the playground or when I go visit some friends how parents are investing way too much time and energy on asking

Why

? How many times does it take for you to get an answer? How many ways can you ask the same question? Who has all this time?

I suggest we check that all is well then see where things go. I use to give my daughter a few extra hugs, wipe her face and ask her why she cried. If the answer was “because I want to be with you” I would respond according to situation. A few more minutes of conversation perhaps another quick story or a few hugs and that was that.  If it’s anything other than illness, we need to teach our children to soothe themselves. We can’t allow crying to become a tool used to get our way. A few minutes to reinforce that we are around and all is well is all that is needed.

Do we really want to spend an hour asking

Why are you Crying

?

What do you think? Do we have the time for repeated questions or can we better use our time on other means?

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